For those who know someone who is widowed, it’s often difficult to find the right words, do the right thing. There is awkwardness in death. The well-meaning attempting to ease my pain were in pain themselves. As a widow, I became adept at making those who were trying to comfort me, feel comfortable. It’s part of the healing process. To those offering condolences, there are no rules. In my experience, there were no inarticulate words of sympathy; no mourner dressed inappropriately; no bad flower arrangement; no incorrectly executed act of kindness. Just reach out and be there. Knowing I wasn’t alone made all the difference. The outpouring of love and support was overwhelmingly comforting and heartwarming. Is there any other advice from my fellow widows and widowers for well-wishers? What was helpful to you?