What surprises, if any, did you encounter after the death of your spouse? An affair? Another family? Debt? In her wonderful column in The New York Times, Joyce Wadler wrote in a recent article “The Sex Toys in the Attic” about people of a certain age disposing of their sex paraphernalia or at least having a plan in place with a trusted confidante to ditch the evidence should you depart this earth unexpectedly. Everyone has secrets. Some are silly; most are embarrassing. And then there are the deadly ones. As George Orwell wrote, “If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself.” I was married to an alcoholic, he had lots of secrets. What long-held secrets did you discover, unearthed by death? And how did it change you?