Why do alcoholics keep their empties?
Photo by Loe Moshkovska on Pexels.com Many of my husband’s habits as an alcoholic were terrifying and infuriating. Some were just perplexing. Why do alcoholics…
What We Read When We Grieve
There are plenty of surprises during the grieving process, such as the unexpected emotional meltdowns in the unlikeliest of places. One unanticipated side effect (aftershock?) was…
Taunting the Living with the Threat of Widowhood
In today’s mail, an advertisement from a Trusts and Estates attorney: “Reason to make an estate plan #7? Elaine, your husband’s next wife.” The 5×7 glossy…
Home Alone
In my 20s, I lived with roommates. Eventually, I got my own apartment and lived alone for two years before moving in with my husband.…
Secrets & Surprises Unearthed By Death
What surprises, if any, did you encounter after the death of your spouse? An affair? Another family? Debt? In her wonderful column in The New York…
What’s on your Widow To Do List?
I’ve had a To Do List every day of my adult life. But when I was on survivor spouse autopilot making funeral arrangements, I didn’t need…
Life Before (Always Rosy?)
I suspect that with most newly widowed in the full throes of mourning, all past trespasses pale and the “before” life takes on a golden…
