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WIDOW INFO
Move over Chick Lit, it’s Late Lit
The word ‘late’ has taken on a new meaning in your day-to-day life, the awkward phrase ‘late husband’ or ‘late wife’ sticking in your throat, finding its way onto your lips, invading your speech. Find comfort, camaraderie even laughter in words by the widowed about widowhood.
After Robert passed, I was unable to concentrate on fiction, and gave up novels for more than a year, swapping out my favorite genre for deadly reads. I needed to know I wasn’t alone – celebrities and nobodies, young women, handsome husbands, expectant mothers, middle-aged men – anyone can lose their partner. A once happy couple reduced to a lone survivor. It happens every day, but you don’t think about it until it happens to you.
BOOKS
A Widow’s Story: A Memoir
The Year of Magical Thinking
What Remains: A Memoir of Fate, Friendship, and Love
by Carole Radziwill
The Widow’s Guide to Sex and Dating
by Carole Radziwill
Saturday Night Widows: The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives
By Becky Aikman
How to Talk to a Widower
by Jonathan Tropper
Happily Even After
by Carole Brody Fleet
Widows Wear Stilettos
by Carole Brody Fleet
Kitchen Table Wisdom
by Rachel Naomi Remen
A Grief Observed
by C. S. Lewis
Lost in Films
I found myself drawn to films that mirrored my widowhood, crying along with Hillary Swank each time she received a letter from her late husband in PS I Love You and empathizing with David Duchovny as he crumpled up on the floor, sobbing uncontrollably after coming home from the ER in Return To Me – a few hours ago he and his wife were dancing, then a fatal car accident robbed him of the life he knew and the wife he loved. What films worked their way into your heart?
MOVIES
Return To Me PS I Love You What Dreams May Come Premonition AlwaysOther Widow Links
LI/NYC Area Young Widow/ers
https://www.facebook.com/groups/linycyoungwidow.ers/
A social group on Facebook for widows and widowers on Long Island typically under age 65 to meet at local venues and events.
Widowed Village
An online support group for widowed people of all ages, men and women, married or unmarried, straight or LGBT.
Young Widows & Widowers
https://www.facebook.com/groups/youngwidowed/
A Facebook site reaching widows and widowers internationally, most of whom are younger than 60, to provide support; a closed group so only members can see your posts.
An online information and self-help resource for, and by, widows and widowers.
Camp Widow
A national network of support for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, with an emphasis on those who have been widowed.
The Widows’ Handbook
http://www.widowshandbookanthology.com/ Poetic reflections on grief and survival
Paula Ganzi McGloin 
One Response to “WIDOW INFO”
My wife died suddenly from an aortic dissection almost 9 years ago. She was 66 and had no symptoms until she screamed and collapsed in my arms. It was the day after our 45th anniversary. That moment changed my life forever. While the overwhelming grief has leveled off – I still cry a little every day. Here is what I have discovered over the last 8 years:
1) There is very little information, books or advice available for men. You are on your own. Therapy has been of little value.
2) The social support that so many women speak of is mostly absent for men.
3) Almost all our friends and even family have disappeared from my life even after reaching out to them.
4) Dating is difficult, time consuming and either an incredible disappointment or heartbreaking.
5) Heartbreak and pain is a price you pay for a great love but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier.
Any advice will be appreciated.
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