Move over Chick Lit, it’s Late Lit

The word ‘late’ has taken on a new meaning in your day-to-day life, the awkward phrase ‘late husband’ or ‘late wife’ sticking in your throat, finding its way onto your lips, invading your speech. Find comfort, camaraderie even laughter in words by the widowed about widowhood.

After Robert passed, I was unable to concentrate on fiction, and gave up novels for more than a year, swapping out my favorite genre for deadly reads.  I needed to know I wasn’t alone – celebrities and nobodies, young women, handsome husbands, expectant mothers, middle-aged men – anyone can lose their partner.  A once happy couple reduced to a lone survivor.   It happens every day, but you don’t think about it until it happens to you. 


A Widow’s Story: A Memoir
by Joyce Carol Oates


The Year of Magical Thinking
by Joan Didion


What Remains: A Memoir of Fate, Friendship, and Love 

by Carole Radziwill


The Widow’s Guide to Sex and Dating

by Carole Radziwill


Saturday Night Widows: The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives

By Becky Aikman


How to Talk to a Widower

by Jonathan Tropper


Happily Even After

by Carole Brody Fleet

Widows Wear Stilettos

by Carole Brody Fleet

Kitchen Table Wisdom

by Rachel Naomi Remen




A Grief Observed

by C. S. Lewis



Lost in Films

I found myself  drawn to films that  mirrored my widowhood, crying along with Hillary Swank each time she received a letter from her late husband in PS I Love You and empathizing with David Duchovny as he crumpled up on the floor, sobbing uncontrollably after coming home from the ER in Return To Me – a few hours ago he and his wife were dancing, then a fatal car accident robbed him of the life he knew and the wife he loved.  What films worked their way into your heart?


Return To Me
PS I Love You 
What Dreams May Come

Other Widow Links

LI/NYC Area Young Widow/ers


A social group on Facebook for widows and widowers on Long Island typically under age 65 to meet at local venues and events.

Widowed Village


An online support group for widowed people of all ages, men and women, married or unmarried, straight or LGBT.

Young Widows & Widowers


A Facebook site reaching widows and widowers internationally, most of whom are younger than 60, to provide support; a closed group so only members can see your posts.

Widow Net

An online information and self-help resource for, and by, widows and widowers.

Camp Widow


A national network of support for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, with an emphasis on those who have been widowed.

The Widows’ Handbook

Poetic reflections on grief and survival

One thought on “WIDOW INFO

  1. My wife died suddenly from an aortic dissection almost 9 years ago. She was 66 and had no symptoms until she screamed and collapsed in my arms. It was the day after our 45th anniversary. That moment changed my life forever. While the overwhelming grief has leveled off – I still cry a little every day. Here is what I have discovered over the last 8 years:
    1) There is very little information, books or advice available for men. You are on your own. Therapy has been of little value.
    2) The social support that so many women speak of is mostly absent for men.
    3) Almost all our friends and even family have disappeared from my life even after reaching out to them.
    4) Dating is difficult, time consuming and either an incredible disappointment or heartbreaking.
    5) Heartbreak and pain is a price you pay for a great love but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier.
    Any advice will be appreciated.

    I keep myself busy by writing a dental/medical newsletter at

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