Only the alcoholic can determine what the alcoholic will do–commit to recovery or continue drinking–regardless of your support. The alcoholic determines their path. You should determine yours. It may seem impossible to focus on anything but the alcoholic and the impact they have on your life and your family’s. But you must take care of yourself. You must make time for you.
Does Me Time sound frivolous in the face of chaos? It’s actually a survival strategy. Me Time is a mini spurt of rescue and revive. If you have a family, they are depending on you. If it’s just you, who will take care of you, the alcoholic?
Perhaps Me Time conjures up images of a day at the spa and you have neither the time nor the money for that. Think again. Me Time is whatever you want it to be–going to the movies with a friend, grabbing your book and heading to the coffee shop, attending an Al-Anon meeting, a walk around the block to see some sky and trees. Me Time will be different things at different times. It may provide a time without distraction to think and plan; or it may be a wonderful distraction in the form of entertainment, exercise, nature, or friends. It may also be a bit of an escape.
Me Time is a must. The alcoholic has a way of taking over our lives. Make sure you make time for YOU!